Bismillah al-Rahman al-Raheem
was-salaat was-salaam `alaa Rasul-illah wa 'alaa alihi wa sahbihi wa sallam
Make Sure You Read This, Please!!!
You Or Someone You Know Might Be Getting Affected By This!!!
I was fourteen years old and my relationship with my parents was on the edge just like any
other teenager. I started to become interested in boys. I felt as if no one understood me,
not even my friends. I especially didn't feel pretty with my braces.
It all changed when I met him. It was fascinating to know that a college student
would care so much about me. He was the most wonderful person. He treated me like a queen,
and soon we became the best of friends. I felt I could tell him anything. As our
friendship progressed, we talked about different topics including religion. He
had different beliefs than me; he was Shiya while I was Sunni. We always argued upon the
differences. He had a way with making things sound bettter than what they were. Soon I
became very confused.
One day he mentioned the idea of muta'a. He told me that it was a type of temporary
marriage, which was halal even in Sunni books. At first I didn't believe him, but he used
sources such as Bukhari and Muslim. I took his word for it, and before I realized, I was
into a lot of trouble. I was in muta'a for four years. As time went by, I learnt that I
had lost my honor and dignity to someone who had done this to several other girls. Allah
helped me open my eyes and realize what I had gotten myself into. By now, I was on the
verge of switching beliefs to be a shiya. At this point, I decided to really search for
the truth. Since I cannot present the whole research, I have tried to give a very brief
idea about muta'a.
I hope to inform and educate the people about the disease of muta'a, which is spreading
rapidly in the sunni community. It is the goal of certain shiya individuals to do muta'a
with innocent girls, who lack knowledge of religion and experience of life. They convince
them with their beliefs, and create confusion in their minds. I beg every sister, brother,
father, mother, and friend to take a closer look at their dear ones, and make sure they do
not become victims to the concept of muta'a.
Muta'a is a form of temporary marriage where a man can marry a woman for an agreed amount
of time and money(mahr). In Muta'a, the husband is not financially responsible for the
wife. If she bears a child though, then the husband is responsible for supporting the
child financially. There are no set limits in this kind of marriage by the shiyas.
According Shiya beliefs, muta'a is permissible when one cannot do nikah and the need for
committing adultery exists, no witnesses nor a permission of the guardian is needed (the
Sunni father does not believe in muta'a), and there is no limit on the number of muta'a
one can do. Also, the time period can be as little as one hour to as long as sixty years.
In addition, a man who is permanently married can do as many muta'a as he feels like. This
is very similar to prostitution indeed.
In the history of Islam, The Prophet (saw) allowed muta'a twice in his lifetime. The first
time the Prophet (saw) allowed it for three days, at the war of Khaiber, and after three
days it was made haram . Once Ali argued with a man who believed in Muta'a and told him
that the Prophet made muta'a and the meat of donkey haram on the day of Khaiber (Bukhari
vol. 7, pg. 287 and vol. 4 pg. 134). This hadith can also be found in shiya hadith books,
which I will mention later. The second time the Prophet (saw) allowed it was at the
conquest of Mecca, for three days, and then he made it haram again till the day of
Judgment (Muslim vol. 4 pg. 133). Notice, the practice of muta'a was then made haram till
the Day of Judgement.This is confirmed with the hadiths in the following books: Imam
Ahmed's Musnad vol. 16 pg. 192-193, Muslim vol. 4, pg. 132, Bayhaki vol. 7 pg. 293-294.
Since there was a time when muta'a was halal. Therefore, one can find hadith saying that
it was halal. However, the latter hadith, which follows the final order of jurisprudence
set by the the Prophet(saw), takes precedence over the former hadith.
Ninety-nine percent of the companions followed this opinion, but there was one percent who
believed muta'a can be performed in extreme case of necessity in the land of war. This one
percent is divided into two groups. One says, it is allowed with the khalipha's
permission, and the other says there is no need for the permission . Those who do not
believe in khalipha's permission say that it was Umar who made it haram. Their proof is
based upon an opinion by a companion namely Ibn Abbas. People misused this opinion of Ibn
Abbas until he clarified himself and said, Wallahi I did not mean what they did! I
meant similarly to what Allah meant when he allowed the meat of dead animals and pork to
be eaten in extreme necessity. This is referring to the time when people abused the
rule of necessity at time of Umar, following the understanding of the one percent.
Finally, Umar declared and taught it to be haram when a lady came to Umar complaining
about how her husband in muta'a, who was married, would not take responsibility of the
child. He realized how the society was becoming corrupt with similar conditions to
adultery. Thus, he had to teach people and make muta'a haram even in the case of the one
percent opinion.
The shiya themselves have a hadith narrated by Ali which states that the Prophet made
muta'a haram on the day of Khaiber (Book of Tahdeeb: vol. 7, pg. 251, rewaya 10). The
author states that Ali lied for the purposes of safety (taqiya). In Book of
Istebsar: vol. 3, pg. 142, rewaya 5, there is a declaration by Ali that muta'a is haram.
Again they accuse Ali of lying for safety reasons (taqiya).
One of their highly authentic hadith books, Usool Al-Kaafi: vol. 5, pg. 462, rewaya 1; It
has a hadith that states that muta'a for a virgin girl is not recommended because of the
shame it will bring upon her parents. Imam Abi-Abdullah narrated: Do not do muta'a
with a believer woman..because you will humiliate her by doing that. (shiya sources:
Tahdeeb: vol. 7, pg. 253, rewaya 14:21; Istibsaar: vol. 3, pg. 143, rewaya 4:93). In Shiya
beliefs, there are many contradictions regarding as to whom muta'a can be performed with.
In one hadith, it is stated that muta'a can only be done with a believer (Kaafi: vol. 5,
pg. 454, rewaya 3-4) whereas, in rewaya 27, it is stated that muta'a is not allowed with a
muslimah, it is only allowed with Jewish or Christian women. In Beharul-anwaar(authentic
Shiya hadith book) vol. 103, pg. 340, rewaya 10:3, it is also stated that it is haram to
do muta'a with a person who is married or able to marry .
With the given confusion in the books of shiyas regarding muta'a, and it being haram among
the sunnis, should really make one think hard before believing that they are doing
marriage in a halal way and in the name of Allah.
If muta'a is not an excuse for satisfying lust, then what is it! It seems to be the
easiest solution for adultery. If muta'a really was to be done in case of need then why is
it permissible for a married person to do muta'a? Also, if one cannot marry due to
financial insecurity then how can one be responsible for supporting the child and not be
able to support the wife?
The Shiya also use the Qur'an, Surah 4 ayah 24, as a reference to support muta'a. They use
this ayath without consideration of the previous or following verses. The ayath cannot be
looked at alone. An example of this is Surah 107 verse 4 So woe to the
worshipers, If we look at this ayath alone we would think Allah is angered by the
worshipers, but if we read on it says in verse 5 who are neglectful of their
prayers. This gives a better understanding of what Allah is telling us. If we read
till the end, we will get a better understanding of what Allah is trying to say.
Now, the Shiya look at only surah 4 ayath 24. When Allah says Except for those
all other are lawful, provided ye seek (them in marriage) with gifts from your
propertyDesiring chastity, not lust. We take into consideration the ayath
before, that describes all the women forbidden for marriage. Surah 4 ayath 23,
Prohibited to you (for marriage) are-- your mothers, daughters, sisters; father's
sisters, mother's sisters; Thus, when Allah says in ayath 24 that all other
are lawful we understand it as all other are lawful women.
The ayath continues seeing that ye derive enjoyment from them give them their
dower (at least) as prescribed The Shiya say that muta'a is the
enjoyment-marriage that Allah is talking about, and that you pay for this enjoyment. To
get a clear understanding of how we translate this ayath we have to know this is a shariah
hokoom (judgment) from Allah about the payment of the dower.
If a man marries a woman and then divorces her, there are four different scenarios that
could happen concerning the dower. They are as follows:
1) A man does not enjoy his wife and he does not assign a dower.
2) A man does not enjoy his wife but he assigns a dower.
3) A man enjoys his wife but he doesn't assign a dower.
4) A man enjoys his wife but he doesn't pay the the assigned dower..
The first hokoom is in surah 2 verse 236, There is no blame
on you if ye divorce a women before consummation or the fixation of their dower:
but bestow on them (a suitable gift). There is also a hadith that the Prophet
divorced a women before he touched her or assigned a dowery. He gave her some gifts (2
pairs of clothing), and then he released her.
The second hokoom is in surah 2 verse 237, And if ye divorce them before consummation
but after the fixation of a dower for them, then the half of the dower (is due to
them),
The third hokoom is in surah 4 verse 4 And give their dower
as an obligation;.. In Arabic, this word that has been translated into obligation can
be more closely translated into standard obligation . So the man should pay to her what
the Muslim society has made into a standard.
The last hokoom is if you assigned maher and enjoyed your wife you should pay it
since you enjoyed her whether there is a divorce or not.
This hokoom is in surah 4 ayath 24, seeing that ye derive enjoyment from them
give them their dower (at least) as prescribed; but if after a dower is prescribed, ye
agree mutually (to vary it), there is no blame on you, and Allah is All-Knowing,
All-Wise For the shiya, it is a law that you pay the dower before the enjoyment
or else there cannot be a muta'a. This ayath is talking about coming to an agreement and
discussing the payment of the dower even after the whole thing is over or paying it after
the enjoyment. So we can see that muta'a does not fit.
There are also other differences. If you keep reading to ayath 5 it says If any of you have not the means wherewith to wed free believing women, they may wed believing girls from among those whom your right hand possess and Allah hath full knowledge about your faith. Ye are one from another: wed them with the leave of their owners and give them their dowers, according to what is reasonable: they should be chaste not lustful.. This ayath says that permission is needed from the guardian, and the ayath continues teaching us about the differences in the law of the free believer and the right hand possess. In the end of the verse, it says that even to marry what the right hand possess is a big dislike to Allah that a person should not do unless he is really in danger of committing a big sin. Then Allah permitted to marry this group, but still suggested to be patient and have self control, since it is better for us. The same understanding can be seen in surah 23 ayath 5-7.
Allah teaches us that there are only two types of marriages allowed: the normal one and the marriage with the right hand posses. Whoever exceeds these two limits Allah says they are transgressors. How can shiya place the muta'a in the previous ayath when this ayath clearly limits marriage to these two types?
Also in the Qura'n, we see that when ever Allah mentions marriage he also teaches us about divorce. When a man marries a chaste woman, and wants to leave her, he has to first divorce her. This can be seen in the following surah and ayaths, 65:1, 2:231, 2:232, 2:236, 2:37, 33:49, 66:5.
In muta'a, there is no divorce; once you pay the set amount of money and the assigned time ends there is no rights, no duty, no inheritence laws, or divorce process. The only law is that the woman waits for a period of 45 days before she enters into another muta'a, while the man can have immediate one, even while he is married or in another muta'a.
This goes against what Allah assigned for marriage in the Qura'n. In Surah 2 ayath 228 Allah says, Divorced women shall wait concerning themselves for three monthly periods and it is not lawful for them to hide what Allah hath created in their wombs. If they have faith in Allah and the last day. In muta'a she can be pregnant with the child of her first muta'a husband and be married to her second muta'a husband or the permanent. In the book of Mustadrak-Alwasa'il (Shiya authentic hadith book) vol. 7 book 3 pg. 506 rewayah 8762 ,it states that the prophet (saaww) said that who ever cannot find the ability to get married let him fast, my ummah' s protection is fasting.
Also in Beharul-Alanwaar(Shiya hadith book in vol.14 pg. 327
rewayah 50:21) it states that Imam Ali said and seek protection from women desire by
fasting. What is the need for fasting if muta'a is OK ? It is obvious that this
contradict this idea .I hope and pray that we will take this matter seriously.
Everyday more and more girls in our community are falling victims to this idea presented
by the shiya individuals. These girls are helpless in asking anyone for help, especially
their parents. Please, teach and inform one another about the idea of muta'a, and our
beliefs regarding it. Please do it for the honor and dignity of our Islam and for the love
of Allah!
Further information on this matter can be obtained by sending questions to the e-mail
address below: islam-info@juno.com. If one learns about some brothers or sisters who needs
help in this matter then please inform us, so we can help them. All information received
will remain confidential.
*** Most of the people who fall victim to such ideas attend high school or college.
